As part of our human experience, we are all familiar with that gut-wrenching feeling of deep disappointment and being let down by others. We set ourselves up consciously and unconsciously with certain expectations, and when things don’t unfold as we had hoped, we can get knocked out of kilter for a while. We can go through many different feelings from being frustrated and upset to anger and resentment. The anger we feel ultimately comes from not having control over a given situation. After all, “expectations are a trap of the ego”. Once we work through our feelings and accept what has transpired, seeing it as an opportunity for growth, we can finally release the pent-up energy and feel at peace once more. The Universe has a perfect track record and will always replace what we feel we ‘lost’ with something far better than we imagined.
However, if the uncomfortable chaotic emotions are left unattended, some can become victims of their circumstances. They can even feel justified in holding onto the anger and resentment they are experiencing. They ‘feed’ on indignation. Some go through life believing it is the gasoline that keeps them going! However, ruminating on how they were wronged leads to feelings of self-destructive bitterness which can cast a dark veil over their lives. They become blame shifters allowing themselves to become blocked by their past and what has been done to them. Blaming others takes away their power and gives it to someone else. A negative cycle begins blocking all abundance, joy, and fulfillment, which feeds into their victim story. This negative mindset not only creates anxiety, stress, and loneliness but also affects their health. So how can we escape this vicious cycle?
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The “escape” starts by releasing the victim mentality and healing the past, breaking free from the energetic cords of the people who have hurt us. These energetic attachments are like an umbilical cord where emotional energy can be transferred between you and the other person. So by forgiving them and the situation, you also release yourself from the vacuum of their karmic cycle.
Practicing forgiveness is NOT condoning what has transpired or allowing the people who hurt us to get “away with” anything. It’s about setting ourselves free from the emotional entanglement of the event and no longer carrying the burden of it.
We cannot change others but we can change our perception of our experiences. Taking ownership of our emotions and being accountable for the role we played, creates a pathway of immense growth and healing that sets us free. Our soul deserves peace and we have the power to create a new chapter with a fresh perspective unhindered by the past.
“Your day is designed in perfection, anything that goes against that perfection, is a trap…don’t fall for it!” — Norwood Young
I'm an international Psychic Medium, NLP therapist, hypnotherapist, and Reiki master teacher, guided by spirit to help others heal. I look forward to learning more about you. - Debbie Creagh
Being bitter doesn’t serve anyone especially you and one needs to know that one you have “let go” and put your faith in God nothing or no one can touch you.
That’s right Barbs. Its like drinking poison waiting for the enemy to die! We must set the prisoner free by forgiving and moving on…that prisoner is us.
Great write up! It’s sometimes hard for someone to realise they’re in this place to begin with, and even harder for someone to suggest it to a friend or loved one. If we’re to be open to feedback and strive to find the positives in life despite our best efforts, we have the best shot of overcoming such bitterness and the great opportunities this holds back from us. Always look for the silver linings!
Thanks Matty. We need to be on the hunt for blessings and mind our business and let people be what they are going to be and not get pulled away from our purpose. The best way to piss your enemy off is to be successful and happy 🙂
Another stepping stone on the road to my road to my authentic self. As I step into the joy of being present, this blog has enhanced my journey. I add this with the other tools Debbie Creagh has provided. It’s a step forward for me. I can consciously choose to be an overcomer.
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Thank you Henrilouise. You are an incredible inspiration in forgiveness and overcoming obstacles. You have shifted your perception which has set you free from the past. You are on the right path. Keep going 😊
Once again Debbie has sent fuel for true guidance in are lives. Thank you for all the words of true grace and wisdom.
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Thank you Denise. It’s my pleasure to share my feelings about topics that seem relevant right now. Sending blessings your way
Thanks Henrilouise. You are doing wonderful on your journey…keep going!! 🙂
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Thanks Jill. I just speak from a place of love and sharing. We are all works in progress 🙂
Amazing lesson to take away from this! Fantastic post Debbie.
Thanks Andrew. When we seek out the lessons from the souls we interact with as we are all here to learn from each other. We are all human but we do have choices in how we react or respond to what happens to us. 🙂
Just what I needed to read today thank you ❤️
Thanks Ariana. Glad it helped 🙂 Hope you are well
So many crucial lessons in one post! You could do a whole piece on forgiveness because I think people have such a misconception about it and is why they reject it for so long. Love this piece!
Thanks Jessica. Yes from years of working with people holding grudges there seems to be this misconception that forgiving someone is allowing them away with their behaviour. But it isnt…! Will put a blog together on forgiveness soon just for you 🙂